Scott has written a wonderful (tongue in cheek) piece giving his Top Ten Ways to Suffer More – http://livinginquiries.com/top-ten-ways-to-suffer-more/.
Here are my favourites;
‘Think about how other people are causing your emotions and blame them for it.
Think about just how bad you feel, come up with elaborate labels and stories around your emotions. Tell your friends these stories – often.
Engage in addictions more. Addictions are great for more suffering because, in addition to resisting negative emotions by engaging in addictive behaviors, which makes the negativity persist, you add additional uncomfortable thoughts, emotions and sensations into the mix such as withdrawal, denial, guilt and shame.
Stay on Facebook for hours arguing with what everyone else is saying. Pay particular attention to the posts that piss you off. Respond to those the most, even if only in your own head. Make sure you compare yourself a lot to others who are posting pics of their happy and successful lives so that you feel appropriately deficient and unsatisfied with yourself.
When someone argues with you or criticizes you, insist that you are right. Fight to the death as you defend your position. This will keep you adequately out of your body and will solidify your ego, which always helps to keep suffering around.
Make sure that you believe that your religion or view of reality is the right and only view. Other people with other views and religions will appear threatening all of the time, which will increase anxiety.’
This is a brilliant way to get us to hold up a mirror to ourselves.
Would you add any?
I would add;
Maximise your moaning about everything possible.
Avoid being grateful.
Avoid being in the now.
Go here to read the whole article – http://livinginquiries.com/top-ten-ways-to-suffer-more/