Scott Kiloby: Ten ways to Suffer More

Scott has written a wonderful (tongue in cheek) piece giving his Top Ten Ways to Suffer More – http://livinginquiries.com/top-ten-ways-to-suffer-more/.

Here are my favourites;

‘Think about how other people are causing your emotions and blame them for it.

Think about just how bad you feel, come up with elaborate labels and stories around your emotions. Tell your friends these stories – often.

Engage in addictions more. Addictions are great for more suffering because, in addition to resisting negative emotions by engaging in addictive behaviors, which makes the negativity persist, you add additional uncomfortable thoughts, emotions and sensations into the mix such as withdrawal, denial, guilt and shame.

Stay on Facebook for hours arguing with what everyone else is saying. Pay particular attention to the posts that piss you off. Respond to those the most, even if only in your own head. Make sure you compare yourself a lot to others who are posting pics of their happy and successful lives so that you feel appropriately deficient and unsatisfied with yourself.

When someone argues with you or criticizes you, insist that you are right. Fight to the death as you defend your position. This will keep you adequately out of your body and will solidify your ego, which always helps to keep suffering around.

Make sure that you believe that your religion or view of reality is the right and only view. Other people with other views and religions will appear threatening all of the time, which will increase anxiety.’
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This is a brilliant way to get us to hold up a mirror to ourselves.

Would you add any?

I would add;

Maximise your moaning about everything possible.

Avoid being grateful.

Avoid being in the now.

Go here to read the whole article – http://livinginquiries.com/top-ten-ways-to-suffer-more/

‘Self matters’ – beyond rationality: two comments by Reinhold Niebuhr and Carl Jung

“Individual selfhood is expressed in the self’s capacity for self-transcendence and not in its rational capacity for conceptual and analytic procedures.”

Reinhold Niebuhr – Theologian/Author of the “Serenity Prayer”

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“The only right and legitimate way to such an experience is that it happens to you in reality and it can only happen to you when you walk on a path, which leads you to a higher understanding. You might be led to that goal by an act of grace or through a personal and honest contact with friends, or through a higher understanding of the mind beyond the confines of mere rationalism.”

Letter from Carl Jung to Bill Wilson – Jan. 30, 1961

Set your Self free

I liked this picture set against the idea of ‘set your Self free’

Wheel of imprisonment set your Self free HoudiniWheel2

In fact it is Houdini.

Most of our psychological and spiritual imprisonment is self-imposed, self-generated.

Letting go our negatives and realizing Self is the spiritual journey.

Rumi: ‘Only Breath’ video

ONLY BREATH

Not Christian or Jew or Muslim, not Hindu
Buddhist, sufi, or zen. Not any religion

or cultural system. I am not from the East
or the West, not out of the ocean or up

from the ground, not natural or ethereal, not
composed of elements at all. I do not exist,

am not an entity in this world or in the next,
did not descend from Adam and Eve or any

origin story. My place is placeless, a trace
of the traceless. Neither body or soul.

I belong to the beloved, have seen the two
worlds as one and that one call to and know,

first, last, outer, inner, only that
breath breathing human being.

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An Excerpt from the ‘translations’ of Coleman Barks – SOURCE https://allpoetry.com/Only-Breath

The Golden Rule: versions by philosophers

The Golden Rule was upheld by more than religious traditions;

PHILOSOPHERS & moral/ethical systems as well as spiritual teachers:
Socrates: “Do not do to others that which would anger you if others did it to you.” (Greece; 5th century BCE).

Plato: “May I do to others as I would that they should do unto me.” (Greece; 4th century BCE)

Aristotle: “We should behave towards friends, as we would wish friends to behave towards us.” (This is a restricted version of the golden rule limited only towards friends. (Greece; 4th century BCE).

Seneca: a Roman Stoic philosopher: “Treat your inferiors as you would be treated by your superiors,” Epistle to Lucilius 47:11

Epictetus: “What you would avoid suffering yourself, seek not to impose on others.” (Turkey, Rome, Greece; circa 100 CE)

Thomas Hobbs: (England; 17th century CE) “Do not that to another which thou wouldst not have done to thyself.”

“When any one questions whether what he plans to do to another will be done in accordance with the law of nature or not, let him imagine himself in the other man’s place.”

Kant: “Act as if the maxim of thy action were to become by thy will a universal law of nature.” (Germany; 18th century CE)

John Stuart Mill: “To do as you would be done by, and to love your neighbor as yourself, constitute the ideal perfection of utilitarian morality.” (Britain; 19th century CE)

Humanism:
“…critical intelligence, infused by a sense of human caring, is the best method that humanity has for resolving problems. Reason should be balanced with compassion and empathy and the whole person fulfilled.” Humanist Manifesto II; Ethics section.

“Don’t do things you wouldn’t want to have done to you, British Humanist Society.

Faith in Sussex: half-day conference – Saturday 4th June 2016 – from 1.00 to 6.00 PM

Hope some ‘One Garden’ and other friends can come to this event.

I will be giving a short presentation on inter-spirituality at the

Summer Conference hosted by;

Crawley Interfaith Network & Faith in Sussex
“Happiness” Speakers: Christian, Hindu, Muslim and secular perspectives followed by groups discussion and question time. Refreshments Provided

Saturday 4th June 2016 – from 1.00 to 6.00 PM

WORTH ABBEY, Turners Hill, Crawley, RH10 4SB
Unity Room – Worth Abbey Church Building
(Please drive in through the Abbey entrance)
(Please share Car Travel to ease PARKING)

For further details please visit
http://www.horsham-interfaith.org.uk
http://www.crawleyinterfaith.net

Face Book: http://www.facebook.com/Crawley-Interfaith-Network- 527183677396243

contact : Iyad Daoud on 01293 883372

email : contact@crawleyinterfaith.net

We do not make charges at our events, voluntary contributions will be welcomed

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